How to Let Go of Worry

I read in the Good Vibe University recently thatTo experience this as knowledge in your every cell
when you pray for courage, what the Universe givesbrings great peace. It means that anything can
you is a situation where you get the opportunity tohappen - bankruptcy, disease, miscarriage, and even
be courageous. Likewise if you pray for strength,death - and that at the end of it, you will be
you'll be thrust into situations that require strength.completely, and utterly ok. You can handle it. This
It's better to skip all that and go for the good stuff:knowledge comes from the awareness of your true
pray peace, love and harmony. Not pray for, butessence as energy - when you break down all your
pray it. That means be it, feel it, do it, embody it.atoms you are just energy. And energy is not
You don't need circumstances to give you thatcreated or destroyed it simply changes form and
experience - you choose it, and then you feel thevibration.
heck out of it.Knowing this gives you the freedom to dream and
It's a handy little tip anytime we get hung up onanticipate what you desire. You can let go of worry.
needing circumstances to give us what we crave.When I was going through chemo the closest I got
Circumstances don't give us anything - we do that.to this sense of peace (because I admit it was
We get to make up the meaning of whateverextremely challenging to get there) was to focus in
happens. I think it was good ole Bill Shakespeare whothe here and now, to appreciate every little last
said, "There is nothing either good or bad thatelement of beauty and gorgeousness around me -
thinking makes it so."because this was evidence to me that I was ok - I
So there.was completely fine, right here, right now.
Except when we are confronted by things that feelSo last week when I swung to imagining 'what if' the
BIG. Like, really BIG.IVF process didn't work and what that meant - to
Like the wine dudes whose businesses facelive a life without kids - I dropped the worry and
bankruptcy if something doesn't shift. That feelsanxiety and came back to where I was. In the
pretty big. The consequences are pretty yucky.Barossa, with fabulous people, gorgeous food, in a
Aren't they?stunning location. Life is good. Right here, right now,
It turns out we can castrophise about anything - bigjust as it is. And I felt some peace.
and small - and it all ends up in the same pile ofYour can never really predict how things are going to
useless emotions that don't deliver anyway.turn out - often they turn out much better than you
When has worry ever delivered a better result?imagined, if you let them. Disappointment doesn't
Nope - never. It just gave you a bad night's sleep.figure in this world if you believe that everything that
So how the heck do you ditch worry?happens is serving your highest good; even the stuff
Here's how I do it. Or rather, did it last week.that feels soul bitingly painful at the time.
Rob and I have been in Melbourne doing our latest -As it turns out, it looks like our IVF attempt was
and last - round of IVF. We're both fairly emotionallyunsuccessful. And through the gut-wrenching grief
engaged in the outcome. We would like thethat has had me sobbing so hard that I ached all
opportunity to be parents.over, I can sense the peace too. I know I'll be ok,
But between the procedures and waiting for the testthat we'll be ok, that a life so spectacular is
results there is plenty of time for 'what ifs' to sneakhappening right here for us right now, and I can really
up and strangle you with worry, doubt, and all sortsfeel that. When I'm done being sad, then I'll be asking
of nasties.questions with my coach as to how to make some
Hanging in the never-never land of waiting, I turnedgood-feeling sense of this experience. How to learn
to the only technique I knew to let go of the worryand grow from it, how to invite miracles into my life
- one that I learned when I was going through canceronce again.
treatment.Right now, I'm not worrying, I'm feeling my feelings
Faced with chemo and surgery with no prognosis tofully, and I know that whatever is happening is for
really give any comfort, I was left with two options:my highest good.
live in fear or live in faith.And that feels so much better than worry.
Living in fear seems to be the default setting forCoach's challenge:
most. Living in faith however requires one criticalWhat do you worry about? Could you let go of that
acknowledgment:worry and focus on the present? and do you have
This is to know that no matter what happens, evenany advice for me on this particular manifestation? I
death, that you are truly ok.invite you to share your wisdom, insight, and advice.