| There are always down times and stressful situations | | | | Ask how you could help: |
| in our lives. We could also have problems that can | | | | You may think of a way to comfort your partner |
| not be easily solved, and can not be shared with | | | | and be supportive. But he/she might be needing |
| others. It is challenging when our partner is having | | | | something else. Therefore it is wise to just ask your |
| these kinds of tough times, since he/she may not be | | | | partner what kind of support he/she needs. When |
| intimate with you, he/she may withdraw from you, | | | | you ask, don't sympathize and make him/her feel |
| he/she may not communicate or be responsive as he | | | | pity or treat him/her as a victim. Don't make him feel |
| she used to be. In such situations it is your part to | | | | overwhelmed. When he/she asks for a support which |
| be supportive and do whatever possible in order to | | | | is completely different of what you have thought of, |
| soothe your partner and help him/her get out of this. | | | | then respect it and give your best. |
| Here are some tips to help you support your partner. | | | | Make space and be patient: |
| Don't put the pointer to yourself: | | | | You know that your partner is going through |
| When your partner is behaving weird or if he/she is | | | | something difficult. Therefore give him/her the |
| not intimate with you, it is natural to think that you | | | | necessary space, this does not mean that you are |
| are the cause for that. Most of the people do this | | | | abandoning him/her, but you are actually helping him |
| and take it personal. They start to wonder if they | | | | her out. You can offer him all possible support, a |
| have done something wrong or something that could | | | | shoulder to cry on, a listening ear, compassionate |
| have changed their partner's behavior. They spend | | | | words and so on but stay back and give him/her |
| their time and energy in this thought and forget to | | | | sometime to think on the problem and fix it. Let him |
| focus on ways to support their partner. Most of the | | | | her make his/her own choice. |
| times it is easier if you open up a conversation and | | | | Don't try to fix it yourself: |
| simply ask the reason to your partner. This is a | | | | You could be an expert, but don't ever try to fix it |
| straight and a simple way. If the problem is caused | | | | for your partner yourself. Take all possible measures |
| by you, then you can try to fix it, if the source of | | | | to help your partner solve his/her problem, but it is |
| the problem is something/someone else, then you | | | | highly recommended that you stay away from |
| can think of ways to support your partner. | | | | jumping into the ground and try to fix it. This is |
| Communication: | | | | because you could be making the situation worse |
| As I have just pointed out, communication is the key. | | | | since it is not your problem. You may not exactly |
| You could support your partner just by a soothing | | | | know the pros and cons of taking a measure and |
| conversation leading to lots of relaxation and | | | | any of your steps to solve it may actually worsen |
| calmness. Your conversation could help your partner | | | | the effects which your partner has to face. |
| analyze the problem/situation and you could suggest | | | | Supporting your partner at times of stress will help to |
| possible ways to overcome a challenging situation. In | | | | increase the bond and your relationship will grow |
| short, you could support him/her and help him/her fix | | | | stronger. Do whatever you can to help your partner, |
| the issue completely, just through effective | | | | after all it is the best thing you can do in a healthy |
| communication. | | | | relationship. |