| Question: I spoke to someone recently who told me | | | | Universe and are reflected back to us in our |
| to put my wishes to have a child into the universe | | | | experiences. Thus, it can be terribly challenging to |
| and then "let it go". How does one do this? And, is it | | | | hand it over when underneath you feel so afraid (and |
| not natural to focus on something you want so | | | | other negative emotions). |
| badly? -Tammy | | | | There's a documented phenomena in medical science |
| Answer: When a wise friend says, "Just put it out | | | | known as psychogenic infertility. I often use this |
| and let it go" what they are really saying is put into | | | | example in my seminars because it is documented |
| practice the law of attraction and the law of | | | | scientific evidence of the Universal Laws working |
| detachment simultaneously. | | | | together. |
| The law of detachment is essential to intentional | | | | You've heard the stories of couples who want to get |
| creation and it's primarily about instilling your emotional | | | | pregnant, and they start out trying (you know, the |
| self with absolute certainty and faith. | | | | birds-and-the-bees) and nothing happens, nothing |
| The law of detachment is taught throughout the | | | | happens, nothing happens and six months, a year go |
| bible for example: | | | | by, and they decide to see a fertility specialist. |
| "Then the disciples came to Jesus privately and said, | | | | The fertility doctor orders the tests, they begin In |
| 'Why could we not cast it out?' He said to them, | | | | Vitro Fertilization processes and every other current |
| 'Because of your little faith. For truly I tell you, if you | | | | medical solution and still nothing; they just can't get |
| have faith the size of a mustard seed, you will say | | | | pregnant. After tens of thousands of dollars and |
| to this mountain, 'Move from here to there,' and it will | | | | even more tears, the doctor says, "There's nothing |
| move; and nothing will be impossible for you." | | | | more we can do. Have you ever considered |
| -Matthew 17:19-20 | | | | adoption?" and, hands them a parting brochure. |
| Now, a mustard seed may be small but it is | | | | The couple goes home, grieve and eventually decide |
| absolutely, positively still a mustard seed. When | | | | to adopt. "Maybe adopting is what we were |
| planted it is not going to produce a cherry tree! Thus, | | | | supposed to do? Maybe this is what is meant to be |
| faith as small as a mustard seed contains enough | | | | for us? Look at how many children in this world don't |
| faith to warrant the experience of absolute certainty | | | | have families and how we are going to be helping |
| that when you put it out there, that all is well and | | | | one of them. Oh my! I'm so excited about this!" |
| Divinely Ordered and in Divine Timing all your desires | | | | They take their focus off of having a baby 'this way' |
| shall be fulfilled, for the highest and best for all parties | | | | and put their focus upon, having a baby 'another |
| involved. | | | | way'. |
| Period! | | | | They anxiously wait their turn, adopt a beautiful child, |
| When you ask, "Isn't it natural to focus on something | | | | and bring the baby home. And, boom! They get |
| you want so badly?" the real question isn't so much | | | | pregnant! "It's a miracle!" Indeed it is, and it's also |
| whether or not it's natural to focus on what we | | | | known as, psychogenic infertility and the law of |
| want (because it is), the real question I believe you | | | | attraction and the law of detachment at work. |
| want to know is, "Why would it be bad to focus on | | | | So, what do you do about the fears and doubts? |
| what I want?" The answer is that it's not 'bad' to | | | | First, begin to consciously choose to increase your |
| focus on what we want. However, when we want it | | | | faith, confidence, certainty, and hope intentionally. |
| "so badly" there's an undertone of fear and doubt | | | | Talk yourself into feeling better. Look on the bright |
| preventing faith and certainty. The doubt is actually | | | | side and maintain that, "All is well and in Divine Order |
| creating the 'so badly' experience of the 'what if it | | | | at ALL Times!" |
| doesn't happen for me?' which of course creates 'it | | | | Another way to 'talk yourself into it' is to deepen |
| not happening.' | | | | your understanding of what faith means. For |
| I enjoy finding support for the law of attraction in | | | | example, read the following quotes and see if you |
| the bible, so I have another favorite quote that I | | | | don't raise your level of 'faith' comprehension: |
| remember when I find myself doubting: | | | | "Faith is to believe what you do not see; the reward |
| "But ask in faith, nothing doubting, for the one who | | | | of this faith is to see what you believe."--St. |
| doubts is like a wave of the sea, driven and tossed | | | | Augustine |
| by the wind; for the doubter, being double-minded | | | | "When you have come to the edge of all light that |
| and unstable in every way, must not expect to | | | | you know, and are about to drop off into the |
| receive anything from the Lord." James 1:6-8 | | | | darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing one of |
| Substitute the word Universe for Lord and you have | | | | two things will happen: There will be something solid |
| the New Thought message that "when you doubt, | | | | to stand on or You will be taught to fly" - Patrick |
| you get more to doubt about". | | | | Overton |
| In this example, what you want is to get pregnant, | | | | "Faith isn't faith until it's all you're holding on to." - |
| have a wonderful, healthy pregnancy, a comfortable | | | | Unknown |
| and even magical delivery and a happy, healthy baby. | | | | "You block your dream when you allow your fear to |
| From time to time, this desire is accompanied by | | | | grow bigger than your faith." - Mary Manin Morrissey |
| many extenuating circumstances such as the fear | | | | Additionally, here are a few other techniques: |
| and doubts of one or more of the parents. For | | | | EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), if you have a |
| example, many will have thoughts such as: | | | | fear or a doubt - eliminate it now with this powerful |
| What if I'm too old? | | | | meridian therapy. If others can do it, so can you! |
| What if I'm a terrible parent? | | | | Meditation (a good program is the HoloSync program) |
| What if something is wrong with the baby? | | | | Seeking Silence and personal introspection in nature. |
| What if I can't love this baby? | | | | Read Power vs. Force and use Dr. Hawkin's Map of |
| What if I can't support a child or my 'other-half' and I | | | | Consciousness to transcend the lower level beliefs. |
| don't stay together? | | | | Call any religious (secular or non secular) organization |
| What if there's something wrong with me (or us) and | | | | that offers prayer support. For example, call the |
| we weren't meant to create a family together? | | | | Science of Mind (Religious Science) or Unity prayer |
| What if there's something physically wrong with me | | | | hotlines and ask for prayers. |
| and I'm defective in some way? | | | | Miracles are a daily affair! |
| What if it's too late? | | | | Your work is to launch wonderful, joyful, passionate |
| What if I won't know what to do once I have the | | | | thoughts about what you desire while maintaining |
| child, or what if -- there's so many what if's. | | | | your faith, confidence, and conviction that what you |
| All of these fears launch creative thoughts into the | | | | want, is already written. |