| What happens after the surrogate mother delivers | | | | about the whole process. They feel that these |
| the baby, what is the next step? Many of these | | | | people are waiting to see if they will fall apart and |
| mothers go through post partum mood swings | | | | realize that they made one of the biggest mistakes |
| without what may be considered a true "worthwhile | | | | of their life and that the surrogate mother just |
| result". What does occur when the surrogacy journey | | | | wants her baby back. So, when the surrogacy |
| comes to an end? There are many stories and some | | | | journey comes to an end many of these surrogate |
| are exceptionally honest about dealing with all of the | | | | mothers feel that the only way to avoid having to |
| emotional aspects involved after the surrogate | | | | explain or possibly justify any of those feelings of |
| mother gives birth and not all of them have a happy | | | | sadness is to just deny that there is any there. |
| ending. | | | | Why would it not be considered normal to feel some |
| Individuals who have not gone through a surrogate | | | | sadness at the end of a surrogacy procedure? Some |
| delivery yet may not be aware that while most | | | | compare it to being the star in a play; you rehearse |
| people have this amazing feeling of pride and peace | | | | for months, submerging yourself in a role completely |
| for what she has done when she hands the baby | | | | focusing more and more on opening night, wanting |
| over to its new parents, there are also downsides | | | | everything to be perfect. Then afterward when |
| and emotions can be in turmoil for the surrogate | | | | everything did go over perfectly and everyone is |
| mother. Often times these types of stories about | | | | clapping, so what next? It is over your months of |
| when the surrogacy journey comes to an end are | | | | hard work accumulated in that one moment, you are |
| not told as the surrogate does not want people to | | | | bound to feel a let down after that. And, when the |
| think that they either regret their decision or simply | | | | surrogacy journey comes to an end it feels much the |
| want to keep the baby. | | | | same way after dedicating nearly a year to helping |
| One of the main questions that many surrogate | | | | others become parents. |
| mothers get asked is how they can be sure that | | | | The surrogate mothers that will talk about this down |
| they will not want to keep the baby, this is a very | | | | time normally speak about feeling a sense of elation |
| important question and answer that all intended | | | | one minute and almost devastated the next as their |
| parents ask. Many surrogates report feelings of being | | | | part in this miracle is complete. When the surrogacy |
| watched or "monitored" by friends and family in the | | | | journey comes to an end it is not always the baby |
| early days and even into the weeks following the | | | | that they miss it is more of the participation in such a |
| birth, especially by those that were fairly skeptical | | | | wonderful event. |